A man said: O Messenger of Allah (sallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam) I have relatives with whom I try to keep in touch, but they cut me off. I treat them well, but they abuse me. I am patient and kind towards them, but they insult me.
He said: “If you are as you say (meaning if you are really patient and kind towards them), then it is as if you are putting hot ashes in their mouths. Allah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that.”
[Sahih Muslim : 2558 ]
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