Sometimes in life, it happens so that the people closest to you, cause the deepest wounds. Walking away feels wrong. But staying feels like slow self destruction. Thus dealing with a toxic relationship could be complicated. In interpersonal relationships, it is important to look beyond surface identity, and to observe their actions and intentions. When someone says they care, but makes you feel small, suffocated and scared, it's not care. It's control. Learn to stay detached. Not by cutting yourself away from the world. But having the courage to say I can love you, but still say no. Don't react with hate or revenge. But respond with clarity. In clarity, there is quite power. You respond to toxicity, not by mirroring it. But by rising above it and refusing to carry what was never yours to begin with. And act with clarity. Between staying loyal and staying honest with yourself, choose the latter. Fight. Not to defeat others. But to not let others defeat you.
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ഒരാൾ ആവശ്യപ്പെടുമ്പോൾ പ്രതിഫലം വാങ്ങാതെ സഹായിക്കുന്നതിനെ ഉപകാരം എന്നും
പ്രതിഫലം വാങ്ങി സഹായിക്കുന്നതിനെ സേവനം എന്നും വിളിക്കും.
എന്നാൽ ഒരു വ്യക്തിയുടെ ആഗ്രഹങ്ങളും ആവിശ്യങ്ങളും സ്വയം മനസ്സിലാക്കി അവർ ആവിശ്യപ്പെടുന്നതിനു മുൻപേ
അത് കഴിയുന്ന വിധത്തിൽ സാധിപ്പിച്ച് കൊടുക്കുന്നതിനെ സ്നേഹം എന്ന് വിളിക്കും.
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At times, the compulsion of always being good to every person we come across might cause suffering. Kindness is a rare virtue that is often mistaken as weakness and that leads to exploitation of the kind by some ungrateful individuals. While being good to others, we expect them to reciprocate our kindness. And when they don't, it's painful. We don't owe our goodness to everyone. Our energy is sacred and our time is finite. Give your kindness to those who value it. Learn to say no to the ungrateful and exploitative. Detach from outcomes. Be compassionate but not naive. Be loving but don't be blind. Set boundaries . Kindness begins with being kind to ourselves first.
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Sometimes we end up feeling cheated or miserable when people around us fail to say or do things as per our expectations, or are harsh and unkind towards us. But the failure is on our part too. Because our expectations are subjective to us, and none are obligated to live up to them. And just like our physical fitness is our responsibility, our mental resilience too is solely ours to develop. It's us who need to be careful to limit our expectations from others by being aware of their nature, vulnerabilities and situations.
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Spring is the season of rejuvenation. In the spring of our lives, that is, in our youth, we have an unquenchable zest for knowledge. Everything that we achieve in our lives, springs from that very zest. The day we stop learning, we enter the fall (autumn) of our lives. Let us rekindle that zest for knowledge, and then let actions that are self nourishing and nourishing for the world, spring out from us.
Greetings on Basant Panchami and Saraswati Pujo-
മനുഷ്യബന്ധങ്ങളിൽ നമുക്ക് സ്വാഭാവികമായും ഒന്നുകിൽ പരിഗണന അല്ലെങ്കിൽ അവഗണന ലഭിക്കുന്നു . നമ്മളെ പരിഗണിക്കുന്നവരെ എന്നും ചേർത്ത് പിടിച്ച് അവർക്ക് നന്ദിയും സ്നേഹവും നൽകൂ അവഗണിക്കുന്നവരിൽ നിന്നു അകന്നു അവർക്ക് മാപ്പ് നൽകുക . നമ്മുടെ സാമീപ്യം ആഗ്രഹിക്കുന്നവരെ, അത് അർഹിക്കുന്നവരെ എന്നും പരിഗണിക്കുക. കഴിയുന്നതും ആരെയും അവഗണിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കുക. ചിലരുടെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ നമ്മൾ അവർക്ക് ആരെങ്കിലും ഒക്കേ ആകുന്നത് മാത്രം ആണ് ഈ ഭൂമിയിൽ നമ്മുടെ ഓർമയായി അവശേഷിക്കാൻ പോകുന്നത്.
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In life, what we get, is Providence and may not always be our choice. But what is definitely our choice is taking what we get or how to take it. Sometimes, people behave miserably with us. They are either miserable by nature or are going through miserable times. It is completely our choice to take it, and feel miserable or just let it pass, by letting them be, and not expending our vital energy, trying to enforce a change in them. Similarly, take failure not as a reason to abandon a meaningful endeavour, but as a priceless lesson, and a reason to try harder using a different approach.
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Your past glories won't take you any higher and your regrets of the past will only rob you of your present energy. Present is the place to be . Be poised to make the most of the moment you are in. As every moment in the present is a new chance to start afresh what you erred or perfect what you have already endeavoured into.
WISHING YOU AND YOUR LOVED ONES A BLESSED NEW YEAR 🎊 🎊
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If you have erred, accept it, and correct it.
If you have hurt someone, apologise,
If someone has hurt you, let them know,
If they accept it, forgive.
If they don't, move away.
If you can't move away, accept their nature, make yourself resilient, detach and move on.
If you failed, try again using a different approach, with the lessons you have learnt in the past.
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Time is the greatest Equalizer. Because it gives an equal opportunity to every person to bring out the best in them with every passing moment, without discrimination. Every new year comes as a chance for leaving. Leaving behind our frustrations, regrets, disappointments and animosities. By leaving these behind, we will start living, by carrying only the lessons we learnt from everything that we left behind. Only then we can start lifting ourselves above our 'problems', and also lifting others by loving them. Let's take this last day as our chance to Leave, so that we can Live and Love, for the whole of next year.
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