None wants to be the second. Because there's always and there'll be only 1 Winner. There's no concept of second winner, it's runner.
Every one like to be the first to get job in a family, first to own a house, first to get loved and first in everything, what not.
If you wanna be the winner, Make sure you worth it. You don't need others perspective of worthiness. It's yours which is important.
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