5. Don't be Afraid - Being a women in these horrible times is hard but don't be afraid. Do whatever you need to empower yourself. Learn self defense or get strong. I know it can be scary, but you need to be strong. In desperate times, there might not be anyone, so you need to be there for yourself. If someone is commenting on you, confront them politely. If they don't understand that language, guard up and you know the rest...
One empowered women inspires many. So, if you can't do this for yourself, do it for your younger sisters, mothers, daughters, friends or anyone that looks up to you. You are the strongest, just believe in yourself and if something like this happens to you, tell your trusted people about it. Your family or friend or anyone, because it's not your fault and it's never too late to be the change..-
4. Be Confident and aware -
To all the ladies, while walking on the streets, always keep your head held up high, don't keep your head low ever. This shows lack of confidence which might let someone think you are weak or scared. So be proud of who you are and always be aware of your surroundings. You all are blessed with a six sense, whenever you are alone or in an unknown place, look around at the exits and safe zones before getting inside. Be cautious and slay the world!-
3 . Attack on weak parts with full power
If you are in a hold or choke, act fast and don't let them drag you to an insolated place. If you are in a public place, get to the ground and start throwing your arms. If they approach you, kick them, punch them or elbow them in the abdomen. As in hit them in the balls.-
2. Distance Management - Once you have set up a boundary and if the person have crossed it. You need to manage the distance. Avoid being in a one arm distance from the attacker.
You can stay atleast at 6 feet away from the attacker. If they continue to approach, run or step back while keeping your guards up and yell at them continuously.
If the attacker manages to grab you, stick to their body and keep your guard up to avoid any punches or slaps on your face, because it will knock you out. Curl up like a baby and defend yourself with kicks, chokes and punches.-
Five easy steps to follow in your daily life to avoid any eve-teasing or sexual assualts.
1. Setting Boundaries - If any stranger is approaching you or staring you with unclear intentions, shout out and ask them to back off confidentaly. Ask them what they need and to stay away angrily. By calling out, if the person stops, you know their intentions. If not, you need to act out and defend yourself by getting to a safe place or taking the necessary steps.-
Resent the fact that I am born in a country where even an infant is not safe.
I turn around and see my little sister sleeping peacefully. Her innocence and the fact that she is growing up so soon scares me to the core.
The quiet night makes me hear the screams of all those women who screamed for their lives and the cold breeze makes me feel the terror they faced while someone was stripping off the life out of them.
The night makes me get up and take a knife to end my life now than to see something like this happening to me or my little bud.
It makes me want to kill the demons that we have in our homes.
The silence and dark shadows lingering at the streets make me run for my life and take theirs at the same time..
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How a women can do their bit in making nation a safer place.
No matter how much grudge you hold a against a girl, never comment on her character or slut shame her.
As a women, we tend to do it alot. If a women put an eye on our guy, we call her bitch or slut.. we need to STOP.
We need to stick together and stop judging our neighbour's daughter .
And whenever you feel someone is staring you while walking, don't look down.. look them in the eye angrily and never be afraid to shout.
Someone staring you or touching you without your consent is unacceptable regardless of his age and relation.
Start shouting.
Talk to your little sister and brother and educate them about good touch and bad touch. Normalize talking about it...-
How can you as an individual help in stopping rape and increasing awareness.
A Guy - whenever you are in group or alone, stop encouraging slut shaming and commenting on any women's cloth or personality.
Men are great creation of God, so don't feel little about you self when a girl says No. Please don't take it on your ego !! You don't know what you said could be said to your future daughter or wife by someone like you..
2. Whenever you see a Guy troubling or harrasing a women, please take action.
3. Talk to the young kids in your family and ask them if they know about good touch and bad touch. Young boys too get harrassed and teased . Create a safe space in your house to talk about such things.-
An Empty Page
My heart is an empty page. A tossed, crippled, erased yet an empty page.
Sometimes I want to write your name on it again.
But then my pen stops and my hand starts to shiver.
I look at my hand and see the ghost of your fingers on it.
I look at my ring and I wonder about the black promise ring that I once gave you.
I remember the promises that I made to you, to be there for you.
But then I see the dampness on this page, which , once soaked a thousand tears and wiped a hundred bruises.
Sometimes, I wish I never would have written your name, I wish I never knew your name, then this page would have been fresh.
But now since I have already written it a million times and erased it a million times.
I don't think I wanna write another name on it or bruise it with another scar.
I wish I could burn it down and pretend it never happened. But then, how will I ever forget, how it turned from a fresh page to a tossed, crippled, erased yet an empty page.
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कुछ किस्से अपने सुनाओ,
कुछ कहानियां मेरी सुनो।
ये जो तुम गुमसुम से बैठे हो,
क्या गम हैं बतलाओ तो,
हर मुश्किल समझू मैं तुम्हारी ,
ये ज़रूरी नहीं।
पर खामोश होकर दर्द तुम्हारा सुनूंगी जरूर।।
तुम्हारे रूठे चेहरे पर मुस्कान लाने की कोशिश करूंगी ज़रूर।।
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