1) You need to clear your mindset. 2) Create a comfort zone around self. 3) Able to express emotions (Negative too). 4) Saturate your well-being. 5) Be open about your choices.
I would let her do whatever she wants, what is best for her. I would make her independent, educated but with realising the importance of life, happiness and even sadness. She would be Mine .. forever..she would be the purest soul.. that's a promise I make to myself.